Live in the moment

One thing that I worked hard on when overcoming my depression, was living in the here and now. Focusing solely on this very moment. Life can get so hectic, we rush through our days never truly experiencing what is around us. Living in the moment is one key step you can make along his path to happiness and contentment. When my depression is at it’s worst I’m focusing on the past, going over and over all the things that I’ve done wrong/bad things that have happened. When I’m feeling anxious, I’m constantly looking to the future, thinking about what could make me happy, or where I need to be to be content in my life. By focusing on what I don’t have (or perceive not to have) I’m denying all the good that is in my life RIGHT NOW. I get so wound up in my thoughts that I lose track of what is real.

live in the moment

There is beauty in every moment, and even through the harder moments we can experience something beautiful if we allow ourselves too.

My thinking up used to be black and white. All or nothing. Everything is absolutely fantastic or totally bloody awful. A bad moment was dark clouds and sadness. I never saw the middle ground. One moment of sadness and I would allow it to pull me all the way down. I’d focus on that, long after that moment had passed, and ignore what was going on now.

Mindful people are happier, more exuberant, more empathetic, and more secure. They have higher self-esteem and are more accepting of their own weaknesses. Anchoring awareness in the here and now reduces the kinds of impulsivity and reactivity that underlie depression, binge eating, and attention problems. Mindful people can hear negative feedback without feeling threatened. They fight less with their romantic partners and are more accommodating and less defensive. As a result, mindful couples have more satisfying relationships.

You need to learn to focus on NOW. To stop worrying about what has been, or what might be. Stop wishing for things that you don’t have and instead begin to enjoy the things that you do. Focus on what is happening in the present will keep you grounded. Savour the moments of joy that make up each day, allow them to combat the negative thoughts. Every time a negative thought pops in your mind, make yourself think of something good from that day.
That’s not to say you can’t have dreams, and a long term plan. But don’t allow yourself to get so caught up in the future that you miss out on the present.

Being mindful can increase self-control. Take the time to notice what it is that you are feeling before your reaction comes. Instead of impulsively getting angry, count to ten and take a deep breath before you react.

Living in the moment can reduce your stress levels, increase your happiness and help you focus on what it is that really matters.

Here are some tips on focusing on the present.

Stop and take a deep breath
If you’re feeling disconnected, stop what you’re doing and take a few deep belly-breaths. This will realign you with the moment you are in

Look around you
What can you see? Hear? Smell? Touch? Take a minute to look around and really notice where you are.

See for the first time
Imagine you are seeing where you are for the first time – allow yourself to notice every detail and the beauty of the moment.

Remind yourself
Setting even simple reminders to be present can help. I like to tie a piece of yarn or string around my wrist. If I feel myself wandering, I’ll focus in on it, fiddle with it, notice how it feels in my fingers.

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10 Comments

  1. July 3, 2013 / 09:37

    Thank you, thank you , thank you for this post Polly! I feel as if I were meant to find it this morning as I rarely come online at the moment and it is even more seldom these days that I read any blogs. I’ve dipped again as you have probably gathered but your post has just reminded me to stay in touch with the here and now and look for the good in everything.
    Much love,
    Talie xxx

  2. Shannon G.
    July 3, 2013 / 15:14

    Thank you so much for this post!! I suffer from chronic anxiety disorder and it’s hard sometimes to remember to just stop , and breath and enjoy right now instead of worrying about what may or may no happen. It helps to know that other women have the same problems and your words of positivity and hope were much needed on a day when i was kind of freaking out, Thanks you lovely lady!! <3

    • polly
      July 3, 2013 / 16:28

      welcome :) glad that my words were of use! sending you lots of love xxx

  3. julie
    July 3, 2013 / 17:41

    Thanks Polly, yes, I am trying this too, finding it hard, but, i am trying, thanks for reminding me, and giving me more helpful hints to keep at it xxx

  4. July 4, 2013 / 12:04

    lovely blog post and it’s all so true…I’m really bad at living in the moment, I drive my husband mad by not being able to relax. I’m working on it though & try to enjoy simple things. The other day I sat on the floor with the sun on my face playing Snap with my 3 year old daughter and it was just bliss. I need to slow down sometime and breathe!

  5. andrea
    July 4, 2013 / 14:11

    hi :) i have been reading your blog for a bit now and l loved it right off! thank you for this post. i have been struggling lately and i try very hard to ‘live in the moment’ i lost sight of this yesterday and felt very off all day. it felt like i was meant to find this post… and today is a new day :)

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