Why Every Mum Deserves Time to Fill Her Own Cup (and How to Create a Little Sanctuary at Home)

As mothers, we’re often so busy caring for everyone else—making sure the family’s needs are met, juggling schedules, and keeping the home running smoothly, that we forget about ourselves and don’t have the time or mental space to care for ourselves. Yet taking time to “fill your own cup” is essential, not just for our own well-being, but to show up fully for those we love. Creating a little sanctuary or spa time at home is a simple yet powerful way to nurture yourself and recharge. Here’s why it matters and some practical tips on making it happen

Why Filling Your Own Cup Matters

Motherhood is a journey that requires endless energy, patience, and love. However, when we consistently pour from an empty cup, we can start to feel depleted, irritable, and even resentful. Taking time for yourself is not selfish; it’s necessary for maintaining balance and well-being. When you make space to recharge, you’re more present, patient, and resilient—qualities that benefit both you and your family.

Self-care doesn’t require elaborate plans or hours of solitude (though that would be nice!). Sometimes, it’s about creating small, meaningful moments that allow you to reconnect with yourself and replenish your energy. Here’s how to carve out time for self-care and create your own little sanctuary at home.

1. Designate a Spa Corner in Your Home

Creating a small, peaceful space can make all the difference. Choose a spot in your home that you can easily transform into a “mini-spa.” It could be the bathroom, a quiet corner in the bedroom, or even a cozy nook in the living room. Add some elements that bring you a sense of calm, like a soft blanket, a candle, or a few plants. The goal is to create a space that feels inviting and restful, where you can escape, even for just a few minutes.

I have a small basket in my bathroom, filled with spa essentials like a face mask, bath salts, a soothing essential oil, a good book, and some candles that are just for me. It means that everything I need for a little pamper session is on hand, and I don’t have to waste my precious me time finding the things that I need.

2. Set Boundaries and Communicate Your Needs

One of the biggest challenges for mums is carving out uninterrupted time. It’s okay to set boundaries with your family and explain that you need some personal time to recharge. You might feel hesitant at first, but remember, it’s important for everyone’s well-being that you’re taking care of yourself too.

I have started to schedule in a regular time each week for “Mum’s spa time,”. It let’s others and me know that it is a non-negotiable part of my routine, and makes me more accountable.

3. Create a Simple At-Home Spa Ritual

Once you have your space and time set aside, create a simple ritual that helps you unwind. Here are a few ideas for a soothing spa experience at home:

• Aromatic Bath Soak: Run a warm bath and add Golden Rosewood Mineral Bath Salts to soothe and detoxify your body, or Sweet Orange & Geranium Solid Bath Oil that will nourish and moisturize. Use Super Scottish Porridge & Honey Soap to exfoliate and rejuvenate your skin. Soak for 20 minutes, letting your muscles relax and your mind unwind.
• Facial Steam: Boil a pot of water, add herbs like chamomile or rosemary, then cover your head with a towel and let the steam cleanse your skin. It’s a lovely way to refresh both your skin and spirit.
• Soothing Self-Massage: Use a gentle body oil to give yourself a calming neck and shoulder massage. Focus on areas where you tend to hold tension, like your shoulders, neck, and hands.

I like to make it into a full sensory experience by playing soft music or sounds from nature, and keeping the lighting dim {turn those overhead lights off and opt for candles instead!}. These small touches enhance the sense of calm and make it feel like a real retreat.

4. Practice Mindfulness During Your Spa Time

A home spa session isn’t just about pampering; it’s an opportunity to be present with yourself. During your self-care time, try to focus fully on the experience, letting go of any distractions or worries. Notice the warmth of the water, the scent of essential oils, the softness of your skin after a scrub. These mindful moments can help ground you and deepen the relaxation.

Tip: Before your spa time, take a few deep breaths to clear your mind. During your ritual, gently bring your attention back to the present moment if you find your mind wandering.

5. Incorporate a Reflection Practice

Taking time to fill your cup can also mean reconnecting with your inner self. A short reflection practice, like journaling or setting an intention, can help you process emotions and find clarity. This doesn’t need to be complicated. Writing down three things you’re grateful for or setting an intention for the week can help you approach life’s demands with a refreshed outlook.

Tip: Keep a small journal in your spa space. After your self-care ritual, take a few minutes to jot down your thoughts, dreams, or reflections. This small habit can be a powerful source of inner calm.

Final Thoughts: Making Self-Care a Priority

As a mum, it’s natural to prioritize your family’s needs, but remember that self-care isn’t selfish. It’s an act of love for yourself and your family, because a happier, more grounded you is the best gift you can give them. When you take time to fill your cup, you show your family that self-worth and well-being are valuable, setting a positive example for those you love most.

So, go ahead and create your sanctuary. Give yourself permission to relax, recharge, and indulge in a little slice of peace—because you deserve it, and the benefits will ripple out to everyone around you.