Dating as a single Mum

Dating as a single Mum can be something of a minefield. There are endless articles with all of the don’ts, can’ts and shouldn’ts – it can seem like there are a million and one things to avoid when you reenter the dating field, children in tow.

It can be easy to think that having children means you need to put your dating life on hold until they are grown up, but it doesn’t have to be that way. I think it’s a fantastic thing for a Mum to start dating again – it can be a huge boost to your confidence, and lets you be ‘you’ instead of just ‘Mum’ all of the time.

There are a lot of negative stereotypes about dating as a single Mum – the whole ‘no one’s going to want to meet your children, or be a father, or fall in love with you because you’re a single mum’. If you think like that, then it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You have to believe that people will find you attractive and want to date you – regardless of the fact that you are a Mum.

Before you start dating, it’s important to think about what it is you are looking for. Are you looking for a serious relationship? Or are you just after a little fun – some time to rediscover who you are, and meet different people? If you’ve come out of a long term relationship, then some time playing the field, and dating for fun could be just what you need. I found it was a fantastic way for me to feel good about myself again, discover that people are interested in me, and just enjoy myself. Hookup Dating is a great starting place – the chance to meet local like-minded folk who are not looking for anything serious but just want to have a little fun.

One of the greatest benefits that come with dating as a single Mum, is the fact that you are more confident in what you are looking for, and also in what you won’t settle for. If you do meet someone who is likely to become a long-term partner, the knowledge that you are bringing someone into not only your life but your also your child’s means, that you are more likely to make sure that you are compatible before the relationship goes too far.

I have never shied away from mentioning the fact that I had children when I have dated, and the fact that they were my priority, but I also made a point of keeping my dating life separate from my children. I’d never dream of introducing someone I’d only just met to my children – that milestone is saved for much further down the line, if/when things become more serious.

Dating as a single Mum can be fun, it can leave you feeling empowered, loved, desired, and more confident. Having the knowledge that men still want to date me, children or not, has made such a huge difference to how I view myself. Getting in some much needed adult time is always gratefully received –  I truly believe that it has made me a better Mum too,